Letters For My Husband

Today has not been a happy day in the WM household. Mr Big and I had a fight. Not a big one. But a fight nonetheless.

Contrary to what I'm sure my mother would say (she thinks we are both 'volatile' - Mr Big & I say 'passionate') we don't fight that often.

Admittedly we are both usually pretty shattered, so too tired to care about small minutiae.

But today was not a good day.

We are friends now, of course, but I still hate fighting generally so I am still feeling the aftermath a little.

But I have put Baby A down for her nap and consequently have calm for long enough to actually reflect on things.

If I'm truly honest, although Mr Big has made his specialist subject in life to annoy others (all who know him understand what a complete wind-up merchant he is!), I am guilty of telling him off rather a lot and 'correcting' him, or moaning about things not being completed or finished or put away etc.

I tried to think of the last time I gave him a complement.

I can't remember.

So I decided to write a list of 10 things I love about him, and publish it here as a public acknowledgement of all the things he's actually quite good at and the reasons I love him.

Mr Big, this is for you. I am sorry I don't tell you these things enough. Reasons I love you include:

1. You make me laugh (even when I don't want to)
2. You are great fun
3. You are thoughtful and you touch my heart with some of the thoughtful acts of kindness you have done for me
4. You love my body (even when I really don't)
5. You are a fantastic father to our beautiful Baby A
6. Your heart is always in the right place - there is not a nasty bone in your body
7. You are supportive and will support me in whatever I choose to do
8. You have faith in me
9. You are a very talented handy man (very fortunate in our refurb home)
10. You are not afraid to stand up and be counted - and you'll always defend and protect me and our baby

These things are all important and I take them for granted as they are simply who you are.

That doesn't mean they don't count. They are EVERYTHING.

Here are some pics to remind you of the fun we have, lest we forget!

Thank you for being you and for choosing me as your wife.

WM xx

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